Below are some of the common questions I would get before a therapy session, hopefully they will help you in your quest for betterment!

How long is a session?

60 minutes. There might occasionally be a good reason for us to agree longer sessions or double sessions.

Where do the sessions take place?

I would work face-to-face, by telephone or at the end of my career via Skype, and I had clients all over the country.

How much does a session cost?

My standard fee ranged ?95 per hour for individuals and ?110 for couples. I had some slots available for low cost concessions as well. If you are concerned about the cost of therapy, please bring this up with your chosen therapist. Many will charge on a sliding scale to accommodate lower income patients.

How often will I need to come?

I usually recommended starting with weekly sessions, and possibly moving to fortnightly. Other arrangements are sometimes appropriate ? this should be discussed with your chosen therapist after your first appointment.

Is it totally confidential?

Any work done with a therapist is private and confidential, and even the fact that you?re seeing them is confidential. However, therapists are legally obliged to break confidentiality if they consider you are in danger of causing serious harm to yourself or others, or in cases of terrorism. Also, like all psychotherapists, in order to be transparent about how I work and so as to maintain a healthy perspective, I am regularly ?supervised? by another psychotherapist: in that process, clients are not identified. Let me add, my work is covered by the Data Protection Act, and any notes I might keep will not have clients? names as part of them.

Is it all about the past?

What you talk about depends on what you want to bring to the session.

Is it self-indulgent to have therapy?

When asked on his deathbed what was the most important lesson he?d learned during his life, the writer Aldous Huxley said, ?To be kinder to myself?. ?So I ask anyone, what?s actually wrong with ?indulging the self?? Especially when going to therapy can also validly be seen as taking charge and taking responsibility for ourselves. Besides, if we find ways to make our life work better, those round us are quite likely to benefit too!

But doesn?t it encourage dependency?

Dependency is a crucial aspect of how we bond, how we relate to other humans. But there?s a balance between the drive for connection and the drive for independence, and that?s an area we often need to explore and where we can develop our own answers.

Will you give me advice?

Mostly, the answer is No. Advice is usually abundantly available from friends, family, media, the Church, the Government etc. When I refrain from advising, it is not because I am deliberately wishing to frustrate you, though you may feel it that way. Actually, it can feel liberating and affirming being encouraged to find your personal truth and forge your own unique path.

How will I know if it?s working?

Therapy is not always a comfortable process, so being unhappy or dissatisfied with one particular session, or a run of sessions, may not be an indicator that the process isn?t working.You may find yourself, at a deeply felt level, evaluating whether you are getting what you want or need. I support that, for example by having periodic review sessions.

Do I need to prepare for sessions?

Some clients give some thought to what they are going to say at their next session. But that?s not a requirement. It?s OK just to come and see what emerges. Some people do like to have ?homework?, and we can talk about that.

What?s the difference between counselling and psychotherapy?

The terms are sometimes used interchangeably. A common way to differentiate them is to say that ?counselling? is single-issue, short-term work, whereas ?psychotherapy? is longer and more in-depth. In this sense, a psychotherapist?s training takes many years because it requires an understanding of organic, developmental processes, and psychotherapy focuses on clients? long-term relationship with themselves and others, working with the deeper layers of how a person is present and how that relates to the past, present and future.

How is the psychotherapy profession regulated?

There is no statutory regulatory regime in the UK. Psychotherapists can voluntarily apply for registration with one of the major national bodies (BACP, UKCP) but this is not a legal requirement. I am registered with both of those, as well as being a member of two other professional associations (UKAHPP and PBAUK).

Have you been in therapy yourself?

Yes, I have found it a moving and profound experience which changed the quality of my life.

How long will the therapy last for?

Some people get what they need in just a few sessions, whereas many people find it useful to work over a longer period of time. It is very individual, and is between the two of us to decide. You may stop whenever you want to, but we?ll keep it under review. I would class 6-12 sessions as brief or ?time limited? therapy. Anything over 6 months is what I would call ?longer term? work.

How does therapy end?

Usually by agreement between us, and with one or more finishing sessions to wrap things up.

There are many types of therapy. How can I choose between them?

Research shows that the two most important elements in the effectiveness of a course of therapy are (a) how motivated the client feels, and (b) to what extent the particular therapist and client ?click?. The type of therapy is rather less important. In addition, most therapists now work across a range of methods and approaches.

What subject matter can I bring?

Anything! Human experience is extraordinarily varied, so the following isn?t an exhaustive list, but it may be helpful if I mention some topics that people have presented to me:-

  • Stress
  • Low self esteem
  • Loss
  • Bereavement
  • Relationship struggles
  • Family conflicts
  • Addictions
  • Compulsive behaviour
  • Trauma
  • Abuse
  • Bullying
  • Professional, work and career issues
  • Excess anger, losing your temper
  • Obsessions
  • Phobias
  • Sexual difficulties
  • Sleep disorders
  • Eating disorders
  • Powerlessness
  • Lack of control
  • Anxiety
  • Panic
  • Lack of confidence
  • Feeling directionless or helpless
  • Depression
  • Frustration, stuckness, lack of satisfaction
  • Burnout
  • Ageing
  • Dealing with racism
  • Psychosomatic symptoms
  • Behaviour change
  • Unresolved issues from the past
  • Boarding school recovery
  • LGBT issues
  • Lack of assertiveness
  • Loneliness, isolation
  • Major life events
  • Lack of optimism
  • Transitions, and managing change
  • Overwhelm, loss of boundary
  • Feeling ill at ease
  • Feeling disconnection, lack of meaning, invisibility or formlessness

Do you work with dreams?

A dream is a fascinating, alive, rich source of information, full of possibilities for change and evolution. It is the body speaking to us. In preference to interpreting the symbolic content of dreams, I tend to work with them in a formative way, with a particular focus on what is growing or trying to take shape.

Do you use CBT (Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy)?

Aaron T. Beck devised CBT in the 1960s, to help us identify irrational, unhealthy thoughts and refute them. Useless or frustrating and unproductive behaviours are addressed through techniques such as modelling, role play and reinforcement strategies. The underlying principle is that, for better or for worse, children learn by observing and imitating, and poor mental health is a function of having observed and imitated poor role models.

I generally find CBT methods work best with anxiety attacks. My style of therapy is quite behaviourist in any event. Thus, in other words, CBT is integrated into the range of tools and modalities I draw on to meet any particular person?s needs.